First, I'd put other qualifiers in if I could...but I can't, because I don't think I can abide those other qualifiers frankly, whatever they are. I really can't. And that's a subject for a whole other post dealing with leftist moral panics. And I'll use the term "European-descended" here because I think it's a) more accurate, and b) is not based on outward appearances leading to a dualism. I haven't even started writing this and I'm digressing. I'm like that.
It happens - it has happened in my case - that despite my background, and my immersion into Asian society and culture (maybe more than some of my critics; I can point out sexism in the structure of East Asian languages some of them can't read, and I've probably lived in Asia longer than they have ), and other things (see my reservations about other qualifiers), that I've been reduced to a category. In fact, I was reduced to a category into which I can't rightly put myself, in fact.
I agree with the profound importance of listening. Listening is hard work. Let me repeat that: Listening is hard work. Whether you read what someone is saying or listen to what someone is speaking you should
listen in the same sense that you might "listen" to fine incense. It's the only way peace and harmony can be approached. I'm being serious as a heart attack here.
Now let me say something else: Nobody, but nobody, is exempt from listening.
If you, as a relatively privileged group are not listening, of course you will offend the less privileged group, hurt them, hurt yourself, propagate division, give fodder to rightists who want to continue the game and thus be extremely counterproductive. But if you as a rightly perceived less privileged group are not listening to someone you
believe is from a more privileged group, and you respond with a mapping of that person to the "Other," you're no better than those to whom you're trying to ... to what? To get them to convince you to join them in a fight for equality? OK, let's say that. But...it
just might be that your supposition is wrong. There are so, so many variables that might demolish one's preconceptions about things.
I was aghast at some of the things I was reading on Twitter recently; a complete ignorance of how, for example, at least one of the (IIRC)
#notyourasiansidekick tweets might be seen by Asians who were adopted or have step-parentage of European-descended folks. This is not theoretical; being in my position in society I know some of them well. That was disgusting, and there's no sugar coating or justifying it. They are part of the oppressed too.
I was also aghast at how some of the situations I've dealt with first hand were dismissed as irrelevant, which I've had to respond to facts on the ground first hand, were minimized; these were situations involving my wife and son and mother in - law. I don't need to be given a primer or lecture on how "insensitive" I am to certain groups frankly, when I have fought for them (with at least one success) against the strongest political force on earth, and they're doing... what, "hashtag activism?"
On the other hand, there are ethnic groups, for whom I have not had nearly enough interaction and sensitivity...until recently. But with regard to that, let me put it this way: I think some of those hashtag activists would have a real epiphany practicing a sparring-centered martial art with an African American or Latino. I have, and when I did I realized how profoundly deep my own inclinations to racism are, and how profoundly important it is to overcome it, and how grateful I was to have a space where I could practice overcoming it.
I have spoken before as well that
I have been "in-between" in some way or another, excluded some way or another, all my life. Yeah, I've been privileged, but marginalization is ubiquitous. Reification of people who are perceived as privileged to ethnic classes categories, and using denigrating language to describe such people is harmful; it's harmful to all, and it's harmful to overcoming oppression. If someone wants to overcome oppression I can help, but if someone's engaging in (especially unwarranted) personal attacks they're
not achieving their objective. To put it politely, they're wasting their lives. We should be working towards overcome oppression, rather than reifying others.
Like I said, I will gladly ally myself with anyone willing to consider and study themselves, to cultivate themselves to develop the power and skill to help themselves and others. And I will help if asked, and I won't provide help if not asked. If one wants to ignore people because of perception, or disconfirm or mystify people because of their perception as being in a category, they are hurting us all, and (preview of future post) engaging in a leftist moral panic about it only plays into the hands of the
real problem. It is foolish and disempowering to think that listening is a one way street. It sure as hell is not.