I am back from seeing my mother who is ill. I have found that resentments in others aren't inflamed when applying some of the techniques used to ward off distracting thoughts during meditation. (Or, see "Relaxation of Thoughts.") It had occurred to me that what I heard from others was what I was hearing in my mind, and perhaps a similar "Relaxation of Thoughts" process applied to dialogue might bear fruit.
It's a pity I didn't learn that years ago, but it's an awesome thing to discover.
Ah well, the roads I took were roads to this present point in space and time. Not bad. I'm somewhat optimistic about things in the future with respect to my family. Now to be expertly skilled at such things...ah...well, practice continues.